Been There, Done That: Boyfriends with ex-gfs as best friends

just thought i'd start the "been there, done that" series.

note: what's written is a reflection of what i feel about the subject. you're entitled to your own opinions and i respect that. :)

mira and i question...

how can boyfriends have ex-girlfriends as best friends?

how is it possible for the boyfriend to look at you in the eye and say, "oh. just to tell ya. my ex-girlfriend is my best friend."

we know how we feel about best friends. best friends are people whom we share everything with, the ones we run to when we cry, the ones who will always be there for us no matter how busy they are.

don't get me wrong. it's fine if boyfriends have girl best friends. just NOT the ex, please. it's WEIRD. so when the three of us meet, ex will give the once-over (decide if she's prettier or not), pretend to like each other just for the sake of the guy.

of course, it would also be fine if the ex has a boyfriend whom she's head over heels in love with. but what if she doesn't? what if she still has the hots for her ex whom she now affectionately calls the best friend just because things couldn't work out between them?

awkward.

girl calls best friend for the silliest of reasons, sometimes in the middle of dates. it gets soooo irritating, let me tell ya. it leads you to wonder how many of those calls are made when you're not there or was it so coincidental that they are made only when you're together with the boyfriend.

it irked me.

to be realistic, there might be some couples out there who actually have these kinda relationships with their ex-es. and if they manage to get through it, kudos to them.

to see the best friend and to imagine her with the boyfriend, doing all sorts of things to him. eeks! they have a history together, you knowww. loads and loads of it.

so who comes first? best friend or girlfriend?

it should be the girlfriend, of course.

on his part, the guy will expect the girlfriend to understand; babbling about "oooh. come on. let's be liberal about it. you know i love you. i choose you. you're the one i'm with now, not her."

girlfriend thinks she should be able understand (yeaaah he's with me waaaat) but what's the point of understanding if she's not happy with it?

compromise? maybe... but nah. i don't need excess baggage.



and i was once stupid enough to say, "oh."

just "oh". yes. i didn't question. i didn't put up a fight. i put up with it.